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There is nothing like being a member of an alcoholic family to make someone feel like they are going out of their mind. Alcoholism in families is not just one person’s problem, it is the whole family’s problem. Children from alcoholic families tend to take on roles in order to survive in alcoholic families; roles such as caretaker, victim, clown, perfectionist, avoider, and many other roles. As these children progress from childhood to adulthood, they carry these roles into new relationships and many times even into marriage. Frequently, it isn’t until we form these new relationships that we learn that these roles are not constructive and many times encumber the relationship. It can be a real confusing time where we feel like we are doing the right thing but our partner feels as if we are difficult, or controlling, avoidant or always depressed. This is normal for adult children of alcoholics (ACA’s) although many ACA’s feel alone.
The two topics of ACA’s and codependency usually go hand in hand. On the Adult Children of Alcoholics website they list the following as definitions of codependency:
As an ACA you learn to function with these beliefs in order to survive family life but unfortunately as you progress in adulthood you realize that you don’t know who YOU are because you have been satisfying the needs of others your whole life. This is particularly difficult when you form relationships outside the family and can leave you feeling very depressed, angry or even anxious.
It is crucial to seek help and educate yourself about your own roles and functions within your family. The insight you can find is incredible and it can change your entire life and how you relate with others. You are not alone. Look at these statistics.
Seventy six million Americans, about 43% of the U.S. adult population, have been exposed to alcoholism in the family.
If you suffer from depression or anxiety or you just want to understand these issues better, please call for an appointment to see one of the independent therapists who is affiliated with Soultenders. We offer day and evening appointments available at your convenience. Don’t suffer alone.